I'm quite the instigator when it comes to reproduction. For a while now, I've been encouraging friends, acquaintances (and the occasional stranger) to add another being to their household. Usually people just laugh off my encouragement. Admittedly, I sometimes get a "you're freaking kidding me" scowl shot back at me. Rarely do people take me seriously - which is fine. Because obviously, it's not my decision. Yet I can't help sharing my opinion with anyone who will listen (whether by choice or not).
So what's the deal with my anti-population control viewpoint? It's pretty simple really.
I'm part of a big family. And I love it. I love it so much that I can't help but wish the same joy on other children in the world.
I grew up as one of five children. Our roles towards each other have obviously changed throughout the years, but have always offered me something extraordinarily valuable.
...My siblings were my first playmates and friends - always coming up with silly games to play, ways to get into trouble (not pointing any fingers at the common instigator here), or things to do to pass the time.
...They were my earliest teachers. People I could watch and learn from while growing up. People who took the time to give me advice or help when I needed it. And people who taught me how to help others in return and how to be a good friend.
...They were my rivals - people I fought with and argued with, but who gave me opportunities to learn, grow and become a better person.
...Today, they're my closest friends. They support me, talk to me and help me - through the little things and the big things. They're there when I need them most (and I've relied on them a lot over the years). They're there when I need a laugh. They're there when I want to have a blast. Because honestly, they're so much fun to be around (we really have a crazy crew).
I know that a single sibling can provide a lot of these things. But when you have more than one sibling, you develop different dynamics and "types" of relationships with each person. And because their personalities are so unique, you learn different things, get different perspectives and grow in different ways thanks to each of them.
Going off of basic math (more = more), you also have a lot more fun. :) With so many of us in the family, growing up felt like a constant party - with both the chaos and the fun.
I also think that because I had so many siblings, I grew up with the idea of "family" in the forefront of my mind. There's always been a strong family presence for me, which made it something really important. I couldn't imagine any one of us "going off on our own" or becoming distant from each other. Maybe that's more of a product of who we are, but the five of us are closer than some of the people I know who only have one sibling.
So that's it. That's why I'm always trying to convince people (my husband included) why having more than two kids is such an amazing thing. It's because it is such an amazing thing.
I absolutely cherish my siblings, and I truly believe it's one of the greatest gifts my parents have ever given me. ♥
|We're missing one. I think Shamu must have eaten him.|